Porokia is Good or Bad?

Porokia is Good or Bad?

Porokia or Infidelity is perhaps as old as marriage. And, along with the growing tribe of cheating spouses, there are some partners who remain blissfully unaware of any damage to their marriage.

Interestingly, the Infidelity Facts website states that up to 41 per cent of spouses who cheat actually admit to their affair. “It’s nothing new, but more in the open now,” says Sarika Pilot Chaudhry.

Many, who are prone to experimenting, do it guilt-free as long as they’re meeting “responsibilities” in the domestic space. Mrs and Mr Shah were the most perfect couple; they made the most brilliant hosts at parties and seemed inseparable.

Later, the husband was seen romancing Nirali in another city. He reasoned, “I love my wife, but since we have been married for so long, I am a bit bored and need that excitement. Nirali is also married, so it’s ‘safe’! I love it when she accompanies me on an official trip as we can spend time exclusively.

I am enjoying it while it lasts.” Expert speak Psychiatrist Dr Himanshu Saxena believes males by nature are polygamous. He agrees that Indians are more open about expressing their sexuality now.

“Often, it’s marital disharmony that leads to extra-marital affairs. In arranged marriages, the spouses may not click, and look for options elsewhere. A liberal media and generally more openness with the opposite sex, such as colleagues, bring people closer emotionally and sexually.” He adds, “The seven-year itch persists and if marital relations stale, a fresh person appears more interesting.” No guilt! For some, an affair provides something lacking in their own marriage, which could be sex or mental stimulation.

Rajesh Goyal, married for 12 years and recently blessed with a son says, “I don’t feel guilty. My wife has no reason to complain; I give her all that a loving husband would, but my girlfriend is my ideal companion and lover. And, one can’t marry everyone they love, right?” For Maya, it’s just about sex, “I love my husband deeply and can’t dream of any other man in my life.

Unfortunately, he has a low libido and I don’t want to lead the life of a nun; I am young and have my desires, so if it’s a man that excites me, I simply have to go ahead.” Then there are the serial cheaters or the sex addicts! ‘Sex is wilder and more exciting with a stranger,” shares Krishna.

Is it worth it? Says socialite Sonu Wassan, “To bring back the spark in the marriage, an affair can act as a catalyst.” Adds Arjun Sawhney, who runs a PR firm, “Humans are not monogamous, so if you feel it’s fine and your partner is okay with it, go for it. Variety is the spice of life.” Comedian Gurpreet Ghuggi warns, “I think one gets into this purely for sex and it’s not worth risking your marriage.” In ‘open marriages’, individuals have to learn the art of backing off before things become too hot to handle.

Ultimately, whether it’s an affair of the mind or for sexual pleasure, it’s the families they want to go home to! Why do Women go for Extra Marital Affairs – Reasons Normal opinion is that only ‘bad’ people have affairs. But for many reasons a pretty good or a woman with high moral can even go for an illicit relation.

There is not any ‘One’ single reason why a person go for extra marital affair. There are usually many reasons a person may go toward an extra marital affair even if he / she does not want it.

Knowing the reasons for relationship problems or emotional infidelity can help persons save their marriage. Reasons for Extra Marital Affairs - Why women go for illicit relation Problems in married life Desire to escape or find relief from a painful relationship. Unrealistic expectations about marriage. Curiosity, excitement.

To re-experience feelings of romance. Desire for enhanced self-image, attention, to feel “special” Desire for emotional closeness and intimacy Addiction to physical intimacy, sexual addiction, desire of change in sexual act.

Sexually weak husband. Inability to cooperate a partner’s needs, interests or expectations. Inability to communicate one’s own interests, needs or desires to his/her partner Boredom with the marriage, relationship or even work.

Desire to punish her / his partner Inability to cooperate with cultural or ethnic differences.

In today’s world extra marital affairs are glamorized in movies, TV shows- serials, romantic novels and various TV shows. You must have been noticed that we listen very keenly for any extra marital affair because we are fascinated and titillated by hearing of others’ affairs. And gradually a desire of such illicit relation is created in us and we don’t know about it till we are involved in such relation.

Next, the code of secrecy is also a basic factor in affairs because it provides us a mental assurance to believe that I won’t get caught.

Do Men and Women Have Different Reasons for Affair Mostly emotional affairs are more likely for women. On the other hand man go for extra marital affair for sex in almost 80% cases.

Women are more likely to link sex with love, while men’s involvements are more often primarily sexual.So why men cheat involves more physical reasons and not emotional. This has been proved by numerous studies that support these results.

In one study, 75% to 80% of the men who admitted that they had extramarital affairs primarily for sex. But only 20% of the woman who were having any affair admitted that the were having extra marital affairs purely for sexual reasons.

Why Men Cheat Desire for more sex Desire for sexual variety opportunistic sex (taking advantage of any opportunity to have sex with any women) To satisfy sexual curiosity about a specific female a feeling of entitlement (the belief that it’s a man’s prerogative to cheat) To show himself ‘proud’ among his friends.

Attraction resulted by ‘Basic Instinct’ of men. and rest of the reasons may be as of women above

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